Sign the Petition Amend Virginia Code so that Child Protective Services must prove family “unfit” beyond a reasonable doubt.

3 Oct

Stop the madness of Virginia CPS destroying good families and the organized crime of profiting off of our kids’ misery. Sign the petition to change the law: Sign Here

The Child Protective Services and the foster care system in Virginia are broken. Let’s end the “Kids for Cash” program in Virginia.

Currently Virginia has a program whereby social workers and guardian ad litems split children away from their parents due an in-existent alleged “danger” of the child’s well-being.

The Juvenile and Domestic Relations District Court forces the parents to prove the danger does not exist under a court of law. The parents often do not have knowledge of what the “danger” the social worker or guardian ad litem is asserting, because the social worker or guardian ad litem also often claim that it is in the best interest of the child for the parent not to know, preventing any effective defense to the vague or unspecified assertion of potential danger to the child..

Another issue is these social workers are rated, as to how well they are doing their job, only by the courts.

Virginia makes money from the federal government as an incentive to foster care. The foster parents make a lot of money and often these kids are abused, because the real motive of the foster parents is income production, not child development and care.

Some judges put gag orders on parents asserting the “the gag itself is in the best interest of the child,” so that the parents cannot talk to the press, friends or neighbors without risking permanent loss of their children as wards of the state available for adoption.

When children are actually adopted the Commonwealth of Virginia receives $5,000 to $8,000 “Per Unit Child” in federal Medicaid funds. Through federal grants, Virginia can make up to $500,000 “per unit child.” This creates a perverse incentive for Virginia to misuse its state authority by Medicaid Fraud to destroy perfectly good families and simply “cash in on the kids.”

As a result, formerly perfectly happy children, are being needlessly stripped from their loving families and then are maltreated and trained to hate the state.

The next generation of criminals are being created for future Virginia citizens to have to pay for, and deal with, in crime and loss of liberty, for a quick “Kids for Cash” Medicaid fraud fix right now for a Federal- Cash-Addicted Commonwealth of Virginia.

This is a very sorry political trade-off, which has been engaged in over the past few administrations, by both the Democratic and Republican parties.

Illicit “Cash-for-Kids schemes, via the destruction of families, are now creating a multi-generational echo of even more needless crime into our future, which is a direct result of foolishly abusing state authority, to engage in recklessly dismantling perfectly good families.

All Virginians should evaluate this problem now, and help me save these helpless children.   Sign the petition today.

Join Other Mothers for the March on Washington DC to Protect Children October 1-2, 2015

11 Sep

Thursday October 1, 2015, Mothers of Lost Children are joining National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) for a lobby day.

1. Space is limited.

To take part, everyone needs to register in advance at

8:00 am to 10:00 am Lobby Day sign in and training at the Hyatt Regency Washington on Capitol Hill, 400 New Jersey Ave NW, Washington DC
Registration required

10:30 am to 11:30 am – Take a Stand Event NE corner of US Capitol Building~#9 First and Constitution Ave NE

1:00 pm to 4:30 pm – Lobbying with NCADV
Registration AND training required

5:00 pm to 7:00 pm – Reception at Hyatt Regency Washington on Capitol Hill
Registration required

NCADV’s focus this year is to encourage Congress to protect victims through better gun control and employment laws.

Mothers of Lost Children can wear our white t-shirts over business suits.

We will follow the NCADV talking points, and then add our request at the end to have the Congress member cosponsor the Resolution.which was developed by attorney/professor Joan Meier.

2. Friday October 2 we will meet at the White House for our demonstration, 1600 Pennsylvania Ave at Lafayette Park at 11:00 am. We will have a Silent Vigil and then a Speak Out until noon. After that we will march around the White House with our banners.

Many of us stay at the Hosteling International-Washington, 1009 11th Street, NW. It is by far the least expensive place to stay in Washington DC 202-737-2333.

3. Please consider making an appointment in advance with your own Congress members to talk about the Resolution. You can find them at

You can meet with your representatives on Wednesday September 30 if you get in early.
A second possibility is after NCADV sends you the scheduled lobbying appointments for October 1, you can schedule around those times.
A third possibility is to meet after the October 2 White House demonstration.

Lobbying is very different from telling your story. You can bring a one-page summary of your story, and prepare a one minute “elevator speech” version. Staff members and Congress members can’t fix your individual situation, although they are definitely moved by your story. They can, however, become a cosponsor of the Resolution!

Some talking points:

  • Are you  58,000 children are taken from safe mothers and given to abusers every year by divorce courts?
  • Your child is suffering greatly because of what the family court and/or cps did to your child.
  • Ask the Congreessman to join Congresswoman Sheila Jackson Lee as a co-sponsor of this Resolution. (you will be given a copy to hand out when it is finalized)

More info:

Advocates for Child Empowerment and Safety (ACES).

Baltimore DHS Director: “Stop the Insanity;” “Kids ought to be in families.”

4 Sep

Over the years, this blog has sought to get Arlington County to rethink its approach to protecting children.   Instead of removing children from their families as a primary tool, this blog has argued that its primary tool should be to keep families together and, using other tools, solve the particular threat to the child.

In this TED talk, Molly McGrath Tierney, the Director for the Baltimore City Department of Social Services, explains what is wrong with the current child welfare system and how she has worked over the past six years to change it in Baltimore.  She has led a massive reform effort to dramatically improve the impact of services to vulnerable citizens of Baltimore. Molly’s work is considered a national model for modern social services.

In this TEDx talk she advocates what this blog has been advocating.   Here are her key observations:

  1. “Kids who grew up in foster care…. You know what they want? They want to go home

  2. Now, there are over 50 child welfare agencies in the country, and the funds to underwrite them are in the billions.  There is not one among them that’s reputed to be working well.

  3. Awful things happen to children in foster care. Short term, their outcomes for important things like health and education are abysmal, and long term it just gets worse. Kids that grow up in foster care [are] overwhelmingly destined for the penitentiary, the morgue, or the child welfare system when their own kids come into foster care.

  4. the agency she runs now was once considered among the worst in the country;  during her tenure it reduced the number of children in foster care by 58%, reduced the number of kids living in orphanages by 89%, increased adoptions 59%, and increased the number of kids that left foster care for families by 47%.

  5. She did it by articulating a mission and repeated it like a broken record,  “Kids ought to be in families.”

  6. The reason child welfare isn’t working is because there are children in foster care.

  7. “Why would we do such a thing?”

    “first, it feels good to save kids. We get a great injection of adrenaline when we rush in, and our brain responds to that stimuli. Just like we do anything else that feels good, we want more of it. And when we figure out how to keep returning to that good feeling, we start thinking that, in and of itself, is success. We’re mistaking something that feels good to us for something that is actually helping other people, because if it feels so good, we must be doing the right thing.”

    Second, child welfare is an industry, and industries are self-protecting ecosystems. Think about it. The only time the federal government pays me is when I take somebody’s kid. And as soon as that kid’s in foster care, they instantly become a commodity, and the industry starts to wrap around – doctors, lawyers, judges, social workers, advocates, whole organizations. The industry is committed to this intervention, this taking other people’s children, ‘cause that’s what it needs to survive. And it’s on auto pilot, and it’s going to do whatever it has to do to stay alive.  And this industry, to stay alive, needs other people’s children. And this industry, to stay alive, needs other people’s children.”

  8. Child welfare is mostly driven by DHS workers, guardian ad litems, and family court judges soothing their own egos and wanting to feel good about themselves, rather than doing what is best for the family and child.

Read the complete comments of Molly McGrath Tierney.

Related: Listen to the Kids

Judges Are Not Supposed to Question Witnesses

25 Aug

Biased Judge ResignsA lesson for Arlington Judges comes from Texas.  There State District Judge Elizabeth E. Coker–who sits on the bench over Trinity, Polk and San Jacinto counties– resigned under fire in a texting controversy, according to a voluntary agreement with the State Commission on Judicial Conduct.   Coker, 46, had been on the bench for 14 years and is the third generation in her family to serve on an East Texas bench. Her father and grandfather also served.

Her resignation stems from complaints and media stories alleging that Coker “had engaged in improper ex parte text communications with Polk County Assistant District Attorney Kaycee Jones while Judge Coker presided” over a criminal trial in August of 2012.   With those complaints, “the commission commenced an investigation into allegations that Judge Coker used Assistant District Attorney Jones to privately communicate information” about the case “to suggest questions for the prosecutor to ask during the trial” among other issues. The agreement also said the commission looked into other complaints that Coker allegedly engaged in other improper communications and meetings with Jones, other members of the Polk County prosecutor’s office, the San Jacinto County District Attorney and certain defense attorneys.

The agreement goes on to say “the parties agree that the allegations of judicial misconduct, if found to be true, could result in disciplinary action against Judge Coker.” As a result, the parties sought to resolve the matter “without the time and expense of further disciplinary proceedings.”

Under the agreement, she will be disqualified from sitting or serving as a judge in Texas.

Arlington County court observers have noticed that it is the habit of some Arlington Judges to suggest to a party’s attorney questions to ask a witness (outgoing Judge Wiggins was one judge who was known to do this), engage in ex parte contacts with parties, or, even worse, to directly act as a party to the case before them by asking the witness questions directly.    Such practices are clearly improper under the code of judicial contact and show extreme bias in the cases before them.

If you witness such behavior — or any other irregular behavior — on the part of any Arlington Judge — regardless of which court they preside over — file a complaint about that behavior with the Virginia Judicial Inquiry and Review Commission and send a copy of your complaint to Judicial Watch and the Washington Post Investigations.